Tuesday, April 03, 2012

Oh the joy!

My beloved flatmate, about whom I vented before already right here, will move out! To the end of April at the latest! I know it's mean, but I'm bouncing with joy!

When she moved in here, we were really getting along. I liked her. A lot. She's one of those persons who shine when they smile. Makes you shine a little, too.

But a lot changed since then.
She's lost all her interest in her flatmates. It's not just me, no no. In the last 10 months she mostly confined herself to her room. We didn't meet her for weeks. She slept in the morning, was awake at night and gone most of the day. She stopped doing her share in cleaning our flat. When we tried to approach her, we were rebuffed. Roughly. Judging from the bottles, which appeared in our kitchen to be brought to the bottle bank, she drank a lot. Like, really a lot. I would be dead by now, I think. Or at least vomitting all day. Which would prevent me from drinking even more. Not in her case, seems she's well trained. Actually it's not even funny anymore. Her drinking is part of the reason why we're happy she'll leave. Her character changed a lot. I lived with her for over four years now and I can see how much she's changed. My other flatmate cannot judge, since she doesn't know her that long, but I can, cuz I do. She became grouchy, unfriendly, uncaring and even distrustful of us. Which is ridiculous, because we never did anything to her. She's always ready for a fight, it seems. Not even about something. It really seems she just wants to fight and when we react all calmly she acts discouraged and leaves the room. It's easy to write all these changes off to the drinking and we don't want to do that. It seems like condemning her. But what to do?

Now that it's certain she'll move out, she's already trying to wriggle out of all her responsibilities towards us. She didn't pay her full rent and she's refusing to repaint her room. Thank God we have a deposit from her, which will cover everything. Hopefully it'll cover everything.

But I started off being all happy! The reason not only being her leaving. No, there's more: We already have a new girl! She's really nice! We talked a lot with her and she seems to have the same idea of living together as we do.
We so hope for a new beginning! Makes you all weary having a bad atmosphere at home.

Fingers crossed! All's gonna be better!


  1. Why did she go from good to bad? Was there an abusive cheating boyfriend in her life? I once took shelter under booze....I had reasons...everyone does. Wonder what hers were?

    1. She always liked to drink. Partying you know. Maybe it just became too much without her even realising?
      She drinks more when her boyfriend doesn't see her much and almost nothing when he's with her.
      As for her past... her father is an alcoholic.

  2. I don't blame you one bit for being relieved she is leaving. Watching somebody self destruct is a miserable atmosphere to live in. Especialy if you don't have the sort of relationship that gives you even the merest glimmer of hope that you can help her towards making a change. You being an audience to her decent doesn't help her and only creates one more unhappy person affected by whatever tendencies are behind her drinking.

    1. I once tried talking with her about it and this was a total fiasco...
      In one way it will be good that she'll be living alone: Everything that we do for her, she'll have to do on her own. Will be good to realize where she stands. Who knows... could be the start of a change.